I set traps to ‘test’ her. I almost lost the person, not the proof.

I thought loyalty needed evidence. I made burner IDs, watched when she was “online,” delayed my replies to see if she’d chase. Every week I “caught” nothing—and still accused her. We were exhausted. A college senior said, “You don’t need more traps; you need steadiness. Call Dayaram ji.”

 Pandit Ji didn’t shame me. He held a focused process and gave us two clean moves: first, end the tests—delete the fake accounts and make a written “no traps” pact; second, replace suspicion with structure—one honest talk window daily (no midnight trials), and a simple check-in rule: ask directly, answer directly, no cross-exam. He asked me to own harm, not rewrite it.

 By the end, I trusted her again—and myself. Without games, our conversations stopped sounding like court. She said, “I feel chosen, not chased.” The noise outside stayed noise.

 Daya Sir told me, “Testing is a confession you’re not ready to listen. Choose listening.” I did—and I got my relationship back.